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On Life and Loss

The physicist Edward Teller is reported to have said, "When we walk to the edge of all the light we have and take the
step into the darkness of the unknown, we must believe that one of two things will happen: there will be something
solid for us to stand on, or we will be taught to fly."

There are many times in life one needs to garner strength from elsewhere to persevere. I believe one of the most
challenging situations to maintain strength to persevere is in the loss of a child - whether miscarriage, stillbirth, early
infant loss, or the untimely death of a child you had the pleasure to love for several years.

I've witnessed more friends than my heart can stand to count endure such a painful tragedy.

There are no words you can possibly say to ease any of a grieving friends' pain.

Yet you can't ignore or minimize what they are enduring.
Friends dealing with the death of their baby need you
to listen,
to acknowledge their pain,
to say their angel's name for them to hear.
They need you to hold their hand, embrace them in a hug, or just cry with them.
They need you to keep in touch and be patient.

The purity and excitement of new birth is stolen, leaving the dark contrast of confusion and grief in death.
Shouldering the burden of an unimaginable loss can test one's belief in the world's Goodness. It's a loss of innocence
spiritually and physically…someone is missing from a loving family.

To all who have suffered such a loss, my heart goes out to you.
I HOPE
- others acknowledge your angel by name
- you find a meaningful way to remember significant dates or anniversaries
- that one day your angel's loss will not be the first and only thing weighing on
your heart, so that a place for happiness can grow again, EVANtually.